What's a tactful way to decline an invite from the in-laws for Christmas dinner ?

Penny · 46-50, F

idk. unless you have a legitimate reason/excuse to turn them down that you truthfully can tell them to get out of it id think it would be like an obligation type thing to attend lol. sorry. just how i see it.

Tumbleweed · F

Prior engagement

AbbeyRhode · F

If they're liberals, just tell them Christmas is racist now. 😜
If they're normal, tell them you converted to liberal.

4meAndyou · F

"Oh, I am SO sorry not to be able to make it to your dinner! I've come down with Hepatitis!!"
"What kind?"
"What kinds are there?"

🤣🤣🤣

stound

my favorite is 'I'd love to want to do that, but... '

PoetryNEmotion · F

If you really do not want to go, then make a good reason. Like I am sorry, but we are starting our own new Christmas traditions. We will be staying home for Christmas. We are available on such and such a day. It is important to us. I am sure you will understand.

We always attended my parent's Christmas dinner if we were not working. And if we were, we came down the next day with all the food we prepared. Towards the end, it was the turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, cheesecakes, etc. I never regretted this. I look back on those days fondly as my parents died years ago. My in-laws didn't have Christmas dinner for a long time. My mom-in-law was quite frail and ill.

You have to do what is right for you.

Alter4Ego · 56-60, M

tell them you are going to church

craig7 · 70-79, M

There's the old standard excuse - a "long-standing prior commitment" - but they may not buy it.A tactful way is difficult to navigate in these circumstances,but probably the best option is just to go - that will potentially make it easier to make an excuse to avoid them if the invitation is re-issued the following year.

TheSirfurryanimalWales · 61-69, M

Tell them you have the plague….

Dignaga

Say you can't come because you are both in jail, awaiting trial for capital charges of espionage, in the service of Uzbekistan, but you both deny the charges and don't have the faintest clue where they came up with the idea to begin with. Maybe next year you can visit.