My former sister-in-law just moved into MY apartment building!

Of course...it's not MY building, but it does bring up some issues.

When I left the ex, I left completely. No contact with him or any of his family. I've even asked my son specifically to NOT discuss me, or my business with any of the ex's family, because he still sees them on the holidays.

But I simply can't be unfriendly. I always liked my former sister-in-law. She was one of those people who would only call me if she could use me in some way, but I am squishy, and simply couldn't bring myself to be rude to her.

At any rate...I fear that problems are looming in my future.

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Friendlyperson · 26-30, F

Well... boundaries are necessary. Some vague camardarie is in order but nothing more.
Even when meeting outside, be busy and always in a hurry. I hope she will get the point and your relationship will be mutual greetings and no more.

4meAndyou · F

@Friendlyperson I've already invited her to our weekly community food share, and told her I would introduce her to all the nice ladies who volunteer and help me bring in the food from the local food pantry.

I just can't seem to stop myself. Duh.

Thinkerbell · 41-45, F

@4meAndyou

You have the makings of a saint.

Good for you. ♥

4meAndyou · F

@Thinkerbell I am very, very far from that...but I do like to make other people happy, and help them. I would like to add, however, that it's more of a disease than sainthood!!! 🤣🤣🤣

Friendlyperson · 26-30, F

@4meAndyou I completely understand you, and I might have a tinge bit of the same character of helping and finding it difficult to be rude. The nature of my work forced the stern way of talking out of me lol. But I understand you because my nature is as you are describing yourself.

My only piece of advice is that do not get yourself involved with her in any other activities. You did invite to the community, she could find her way from that point. She's old and mature enough to make friends on her own without you babysitting her. So please, let it be you last initiative with her. Outside of the usual pleasantries, not do get yourself involved. You would be doing her and yourself a favor then.
I hope you have a beautiful life 🥰

4meAndyou · F

@Friendlyperson Thank you, my friend! You are SO kind! ♥♥♥

Friendlyperson · 26-30, F

@4meAndyou
I am re reading my words lol so many typos lol It is 03 AM and I am in the middle of the nightshift waiting for a patient lol. Thank you too for your always kind words and everlasting support. You are the kind soul, may God bless you. 🥰

4meAndyou · F

@Friendlyperson 🤗🤗🤗