Today I realized that I may look like my mom, but I’m more like my dad on the inside He’s har...

Similar vibe here. I am supposed to have more of my mom's looks but I have always aspired to be more like my dad. It's in the moments that I feel like him that I feel I'm doing something right. My mom is complicated, or at least our relationship is. It was heavily tainted in my most difficult years when she just couldn't be bothered to help or even listen.

Parents aren't always good at being parents.

Fortunately I'm great at being a fish robot.

SilentSaturn · 26-30, M

Oh i can relate to this. My mom loves emotional blackmail and playing the victim.

I think back now and realize how toxic she was to my dad. Always threatening divorce if he didnt do what she wanted.

I never did hate her.. but everytime i think about how she used to act and still acts.. my hate towards her grows.

Pfuzylogic · M

I was determined to be antithetical to my Dad since he seemed like the money grabber but later my Mother revealed a bunch of secrets 50 years later which left me feeling that I had been gaslighted my whole life by her! 😂

Filipinalez · 18-21, F

Sounds like what a song says I heard at a friends house ie lessons learned, and sounds like you learned it well. Sorry it was at the expense of a broken heart though.

Therealsteve · 31-35, M

Yeah you are hard working, determined, humble, caring, amazing. Essentially Jesus but better..

Sojournersoul · M

Glad you have a great role model in your dad. Never had a role model growing up like that.

Justafantasy · M

No matter what we all pick up traits from those we're around enough. Good to know the ones you don't want though

Sequoia51 · 70-79, M

Hopefully, your Mother has some good traits that you can appreciate

thepreposterouspanda · 36-40, M

I've never gotten along with my mom.

Used to look up to my dad but not at this point.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

I am really sorry and from what you have said about your Mom and the comments she makes to you that has made me angry to know she’s said such things to you. I don’t have daughters but I would never speak to my son’s that way. I am happy that you have your dad to lean on and you can look up too.

I really hope you know you’re beautiful inside and out regardless of what your Mom says to you.

My family is very dysfunctional but my Dad is less so and I think my Mother caused him so much stress.

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