Today I realized that

I may look like my mom, but I’m more like my dad on the inside

He’s hard working, determined, humble, caring… my role model in life
And she’s like the complete opposite.

I don’t think my parents know that i know this, but I remember when I was around 12, i overheard them talk about divorce several times. I was heartbroken and hid my pain as best as I could 💔 I can’t remember what specifically changed or why they decided to stay together but even back then I knew that if they did separate, I wanted to live with him.

I don’t hate my mom… but she’s the example of who I don’t want to be for my future children…

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SW-User

Oh i can relate to this. My mom loves emotional blackmail and playing the victim.

I think back now and realize how toxic she was to my dad. Always threatening divorce if he didnt do what she wanted.

I never did hate her.. but everytime i think about how she used to act and still acts.. my hate towards her grows.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@SW-User wow, I’m so sorry you had a similar experience with your mother 🥺 It just shows you how common this issue really is

SW-User

@Ashly for sure. I've only realized that all my struggles to this day have been a result of her trauma. I'm married today to someone i dont really love or wanna be with because of her.

Im sorta stuck. But i may one day soon just rip the whole thing a part and end it.

Too take control back of my life.