Did I cry today? Yes. Motherhood is overwhelming sometimes… Oldest Teens going through a...

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

I’m sorry you have so much going on. Raising kids is the hardest and most unrewarding job in the world

I’ll let you in on a secret.
I was just like your son, the one who complained about the takeout and the sandwich. And my mother would cater to me, and as a result, I ended up a total entitled, spoiled brat.

I look back and I just wish that she would have stood up to me and said make your own sandwich or if you don’t speak up, you’re not going to get your sandwich or the takeout. If she had done that I would have had grown up with a much better attitude

Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F

It's so sad to hear you feeling that way! You are the backbone of your family and you are so not a nuisance, the teenager is the nuisance tbh. Rude and unnapreaciative. But it is just a phase, he doesn't know how lucky he is to have a mom taking care of him as good as you. He will realize one day. I just had a baby last year and it's my first, and between him and my big child aka boyfriend, it gets hard sometimes. So seriously I mean when it when I say you are superwoman, taking care of that many babies big and small. Sorry you have a teen going through that stage but it won't last forever, you know that.

Mamapolo2016 · F

It is ENTIRELY reasonable not to buy or make a sandwich for a teenager who won’t tell you he needs one AND who is entirely capable of making his own sandwich. It’s not like you locked the fridge.

It is also reasonable to cry now and then when you are tossing in the seas of teenage hormones and emotions.

Unfortunately, reason has little to do with this. The irony is that teenagers are simultaneously striving for independence but still want sandwiches readily available.

If you hit a quiet, calm spot, explain that a speck of communication could have avoided this.

Hugs to Mom.

Nebula · 41-45, F

Aww, I'm sorry ☹️ being a mother you are definitely taken for granted

Penny · 46-50, F

being taken for granted is hard. probably the hardest part about parenthood. when you give and give so much of yourself that there's nothing left.. it can be very difficult and feeling unappreciated makes it worse. especially f youre the type who wants to do everything for everyone. my solution? rememeber to put yourself first. if youre not happy yourself first you cant make anyone else happy. then remember your spouse next. kids can suck alot of happiness out of your relationship. i understand toddlers demand a lot of attention even those without extra issues. have a talk with your teens. tell them youre feeling frazzled and cant take it anymore. ask for help. ask for help with the toddler too if you need it. i know its hard to get teens to do anythign soemtimes but make a chore list or something. tell them theyre old enough and going to need to fend for themselves in the kitchen and clean up after themselves too from now on. its prolly time they learned how to start taking care of themselves too.

eta- while at the same time always assume the teens are hungry lol and get food for them even if they dont ask

Neoerectus · M

Hardest time ever for me was son and daughter's teen years.

An old friend joked, "The Devil stole away my daughter at 13, substituted her for a demon, and then gave her back at 21. "

Straylight · 31-35, F

Tell them how you feel. A family needs to be supported by all members.

sexylady89 · F

Wow hard