All of the self help material and psychology that I'm reading

they all agree that when you're healed, the relationships with your parents will heal. I just had a call with my dad but it felt like there has been no progress whatsoever. He began shouting at me out of nowhere but since I'm far from that, it sounded really awkward. I was intending to tell him about the martial arts competition but I didn't say anything.
I wouldn't like to risk any comment that would spoil my achievement, as his regulars.
I was hoping for something better.
I guess, let's move on 🌷

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Convivial · 26-30, F

Just because you have resolved your issues doesn't mean he's resolved his... You lead your life to be happy and productive.... He's responsible for his actions

SW-User

@Convivial I don't know if I have resolved anything.. but I know I can finally tell with clarity good from bad.
It's so hard loving my parents and accept them exactly as they are, without trying to change them. I'm still affected.

Convivial · 26-30, F

@SW-User like the weather, you can't change other people, just yourself... And i guess acceptance of who and how they are, warts and all

SW-User

@Convivial thanks for the weather metaphor, it's something I can relate. Wise words 🌹thank you!

Convivial · 26-30, F

@SW-User i think with many situations, peace find with finding a different viewpoint ... Good luck and hugs

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

@Convivial Did you ever notice with problems and situations that come up most of them are created inside a persons mind that creates the problem when really there’s nothing to change .
The 2 situations you have no control over is being ‘ born or death ‘
Really there’s nothing to change .
Born and death ‘ why there’s nothing to change . No bringing religion into it but it’s ‘ God ‘ life or death.
That’s the spirit in everyone.
The rest is all drama