What are some reasons why your mate, or significant other might pick a fight with you? How would you diffuse an argument to keep peace?

We don’t fight. He seems to feel a need to prove that he isn’t vulnerable and doesn’t care about anyone’s feelings. Proudly proclaims himself a prick. I just find something to do elsewhere. He says he doesn’t want a divorce, but also says if I don’t like his behavior I know where the door is, so I don’t really think anything else needs to be said. I feel terribly sorry for him.

She would start fights about forcing our daughter to deal with loud noises and crowds when she was little. Our daughter hated them and would cry nonstop.

When our son was born she would starts fights about my job, my hours, what i cooked, my outbursts and me picking the kids over her..

We're getting a divorce so i guess i didn't diffuse them good enough.

Mine sometimes picks a fight with me just because he's angry at someone else and needs to take it out on someone.

We generally fight only when I try to address the fact she is checked out of most aspects of her life and the impact it has on our marriage / life together. Years of counseling supported those as legitimate issues but she's still in denial.

Because ugh