Why oh why...... Went to visit my boyfriends family in Bulgaria and he booked this trip for...

Alex51 · 61-69, M

Break from him at the earliest.dont waste a minute.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

Well sorry to hear this . Do you work and have your own bank account which only you have access to it? See if you can get help from battled wife centers . Never leave him alone with her. Make it clear if he touches your daughter you will call police and press charges. He knew what he was getting into when you guys started dating. I hope you work outside the family meaning not for him. If this is happening get your own job because you will have control over your pay meaning you Bf cannot hold your pay or stop paying you so you cannot leave.

ArishMell · 70-79, M

Hmmm. Dangerous. Leave him as soon as you can.

I realise it may hurt his family's feelings if they are lovely people, but I think if allowed to continue you and your daughter may become trapped in a very controlling and even violent relationship. He's already harming her confidence.

Even without that, he does not seem to care about you or her, only about himself.

SW-User

Why are you letting him hit your daughter? I'd have finished with him day one of noticing ANY signs of aggression towards her. Being a single mom doesn't have to be that bad.

Prioritize your children.

Rhode57 · 56-60, M

So go home . Let the money go its not worth your daughters or your misery . I would never treat you that way I love kids , he obviously doesnt . Kids will be kids its normal , we were all kids once .

SweetMae · 70-79, F

Keep your daughter busy until the second with fun things outside the house even if it is just a walk.

I am sorry this happened to you and your daughter.

Barefooter25 · 46-50, M

I'm sorry you're going through this. You are better off without him. Whether I'm a single parent or not, I would never let anyone lay a hand on my kid. You deserve someone way better.

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

One thing I never expected is to see my country mentioned on this site, I freaked out when I read Bulgaria.
But that guy sure doesn't sound like dad material.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

Go out and explore with your daughter, then go home, and break all contact he's a jerk.

RebelFox · 36-40, F

Wtf I’d find a way out of there. Go to an embassy or something

REMsleep · 41-45, F

It sounds like you two have fundamental differences in how to raise children. I don't think that he planned to break up with you obviously. It sounds like he reached a breaking point.

But also it sounds to me like perhaps ( I cannot say without more detail) that your daughter needs more discipline. Your future husband cannot act in the authority as a stepfather if he can't discipline her.
You will cry later if you don't come to terms with setting firm boundaries. Children may test them but there are limits and pushing adults is out of line. If your child pushed me I would expect you to discipline her and if you did not then I would not put up with you anymore either.

But any man that gets to the point of acting as a stepfather ( marriage) must be trusted with having that role also.

sspec

Lesson learnt. 👍

Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M

Go home

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