Why oh why......

Went to visit my boyfriends family in Bulgaria and he booked this trip for over a month.
And two days ago he told me he can't deal with my daughter anymore she's stressing him out and has pushed him and that he's been holding back hurting her for two months..... Like why not talk about it before going out to meet his family if he was only gonna brake up with me anyways?
He's been away most of the time catching up with all his mates and stuff and all these party's keep popping up and now we stuck here week and half till our flight on 2nd.
So not only have I wasted time and money but my daughter is scared anytime anyone goes near her because of his aggression against her.
My daughter loves to chat and make noise more than most and don't lisern which most kids her age do to test boundaries and so he smacks her for it even though I've told him not too. I just want to go home 😭😭

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REMsleep · 41-45, F

It sounds like you two have fundamental differences in how to raise children. I don't think that he planned to break up with you obviously. It sounds like he reached a breaking point.

But also it sounds to me like perhaps ( I cannot say without more detail) that your daughter needs more discipline. Your future husband cannot act in the authority as a stepfather if he can't discipline her.
You will cry later if you don't come to terms with setting firm boundaries. Children may test them but there are limits and pushing adults is out of line. If your child pushed me I would expect you to discipline her and if you did not then I would not put up with you anymore either.

But any man that gets to the point of acting as a stepfather ( marriage) must be trusted with having that role also.

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SW-User

@REMsleep This 100%.

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