Why oh why......

Went to visit my boyfriends family in Bulgaria and he booked this trip for over a month.
And two days ago he told me he can't deal with my daughter anymore she's stressing him out and has pushed him and that he's been holding back hurting her for two months..... Like why not talk about it before going out to meet his family if he was only gonna brake up with me anyways?
He's been away most of the time catching up with all his mates and stuff and all these party's keep popping up and now we stuck here week and half till our flight on 2nd.
So not only have I wasted time and money but my daughter is scared anytime anyone goes near her because of his aggression against her.
My daughter loves to chat and make noise more than most and don't lisern which most kids her age do to test boundaries and so he smacks her for it even though I've told him not too. I just want to go home 😭😭

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updown2020 · 61-69, M

Well sorry to hear this . Do you work and have your own bank account which only you have access to it? See if you can get help from battled wife centers . Never leave him alone with her. Make it clear if he touches your daughter you will call police and press charges. He knew what he was getting into when you guys started dating. I hope you work outside the family meaning not for him. If this is happening get your own job because you will have control over your pay meaning you Bf cannot hold your pay or stop paying you so you cannot leave.

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@updown2020 I work in his company but I have my own bank account. Yes thank you for saying that, he should know the commitments it is with kids I made it clear I had them and I told him she is tricky so he should know. I was thinking of starting my own with my art it's gonna be slow but it will work itself out or not I'll have to find something don't want to go back on universal credit but if I need to to support my girls I will

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@MiraRoss Well see if you can get a new job. Because if he is the owner well he may not like that fact you are getting your own place and fire you. But there's another problem if it is his apartment or house the furniture is his right and you have nothing and will have to start fresh or have some things of your own. Are you getting child support from the kids father?

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@updown2020 I do not know if you realize what he has done he knew what he was planning to do and yet he still brought you to his family. I would be very careful keep an eye out for your passports and see if you can find out where the American embassy is make sure you hide your plan tickets call your mom tell her when you are suppose to be home and if you are not tell her what to do or if you have someone else you trust.

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@updown2020 he rented the property most of the stuff in the house is his anyways so will have to start fresh. I have my passports in my bag and he not gonna mess with them. I've messaged him and he said I can stay in the house till I find my own place, we have tickets booked to go home on 2nd and I have them in my bag also

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@MiraRoss Well I hope for you he not not touch them you are in a place you do not know and he knows everything. You need to act fast. Maybe you know this maybe you do not but the fact he said he wanted to hurt your daughter and you did nothing and DCS finds out you could have both kids taken away from you because you did not protect them. You need to start a new life leaving him and his job behind.

MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@updown2020 we are moving on I have flight booked for Tuesday and my mum said I can stay with her

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updown2020 · 61-69, M

@MiraRoss Well good and get a new job also. make sure you give him back his keys and take everything that belongs to your guys and make a change of address so your mail will be forwarded to your mom's place. And make sure you change your cell number if you have a phone if you shared and credit cards make sure you get your name off of them because if your name is on them you are partly responsible. If you have life insurance and he is the beneficially change the name to your estate because if you do not change his name if something happens to you he will get the money when your girls should.

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MiraRoss · 31-35, F

@updown2020 we haven't got anything joint so don't need to worry about it

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