I need some uplifting -

My mom is blaming me for my sister never being home and always being with her boyfriend. She said if I’d move out faster and give my sister my bedroom so she can have what she wants then she’d spend more time at home . But I bought a fixer upper house - at the strong encouragement of both of my parents- and my mom said no rush fix things as you can afford them - and she won’t allow me to move in until everything is complete - and I just feel like everything is my fault and I have no control and im so anxious and need a drink

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Jenna76 · 36-40, F

This is a very sad post, I wonder does your mother realize how hurtful she is being to you. You probably feel stuck but if you can get someone to help you fix the place up..even suggest to her she help you since she wants you out so bad. Stay strong things will get better.

antisocialbutterfly · 26-30, F

@Jenna76 she doesn’t care if she hurts me

Jenna76 · 36-40, F

@antisocialbutterfly I'm sorry to hear that and for you. if I knew what the *hug* emoji was i would give you one.

smiler2012 · 61-69

{@antisocialbutterfly ] well do not feel it is your fault as it is not. your parents are being unfair on you for your sister going out . they are showing unfair favouritism to your sister over you i may be a million miles off with this but is your sister doing to play you off against your parents to gain the end result a room of her own making you a scapegoat for your parents to blame

updown2020 · 61-69, M

Well is your house livable? If so then move in.

SW-User

Sounds like you deserve that drink

Carazaa · F

You might have to be a little stronger with your Mom, loving but firm what is best for you, like "Mom this is best for me please stop it!"

antisocialbutterfly · 26-30, F

@Carazaa no I’m her least favorite child so I don’t really matter- my sister is the one blessed with the opportunity to marry and have children

Carazaa · F

@antisocialbutterfly

So what's happening is that you are "scape goated" so you have to be very strong; Loving, but strong. Otherwise you will not reach your goals in life, and you might develop poor coping skills, and marry an abusive mate.

You will be ok. This helped me a lot in my family. (You can read my miracle stories on my profile, 5th post)

1. Pray to God for wisdom
2. Be loving always. God blesses us if we honor our parents.
3. But If she says something ridiculous, look her straight in her eyes and say "pardon me, what did you say?" Make her repeat it, that will make her nervous and stop saying hurtful things. Do not debate with them, but answer short answers, like "No Mom stop it"
4. take good care of yourself. I start every day with a bible reading (a few chapters every morning), eat healthy meals, exercise, forgive everyone, and get a lot of education and a good job, and have loving friends, and don't live with your family.

NerdyPotato · M

She sounds like a bit of a hypocrite...

antisocialbutterfly · 26-30, F

Having a drink @NerdyPotato

JRVanguard · 26-30, M

Hope you’re well little sis💙

496sbc · 36-40, M

wow ur mom is so rude to u

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