I need some uplifting -

My mom is blaming me for my sister never being home and always being with her boyfriend. She said if I’d move out faster and give my sister my bedroom so she can have what she wants then she’d spend more time at home . But I bought a fixer upper house - at the strong encouragement of both of my parents- and my mom said no rush fix things as you can afford them - and she won’t allow me to move in until everything is complete - and I just feel like everything is my fault and I have no control and im so anxious and need a drink

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Carazaa · F

You might have to be a little stronger with your Mom, loving but firm what is best for you, like "Mom this is best for me please stop it!"

antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F

@Carazaa no I’m her least favorite child so I don’t really matter- my sister is the one blessed with the opportunity to marry and have children

Carazaa · F

@antisocialbutterfly

So what's happening is that you are "scape goated" so you have to be very strong; Loving, but strong. Otherwise you will not reach your goals in life, and you might develop poor coping skills, and marry an abusive mate.

You will be ok. This helped me a lot in my family. (You can read my miracle stories on my profile, 5th post)

1. Pray to God for wisdom
2. Be loving always. God blesses us if we honor our parents.
3. But If she says something ridiculous, look her [b]straight[/b] in her eyes and say "pardon me, what did you say?" Make her repeat it, that will make her nervous and stop saying hurtful things. Do not debate with them, but answer short answers, like "No Mom stop it"
4. take good care of yourself. I start every day with a bible reading (a few chapters every morning), eat healthy meals, exercise, forgive everyone, and get a lot of education and a good job, and have loving friends, and don't live with your family.