Family Problems

It's what they think they have to be , assertive like a pillar . It's what growing up in a patriarchal family dynamic does and a patriarchal society. I do sympathize with them in that they almost always believe they have to be the problem solver/provider ,in control of everything etc. It sounds like he doesn't know how to communicate his emotions in a way that's effective and healthy so he ends up frustrated at everything

He wants to ensure you are ok and takes responsibility for you.

Not all fathers are «abusif « It depends on their character and especially how they were brought up and educated
It’s something visible in many different walks of life unfortunately and there are also mothers too

I am not going to judge you and your situation, or your father. What I suggest is that you consider you are your own person with God-given abilities. Leverage those and work your way into becoming emotionally independent of him (or anyone for that matter). Only he is responsible for his emotions and his anger. You are not. You are only responsible for your emotions and feelings. Maybe seek out others outside of family who are capable of being more supportive, and can help you handle your stressful situations. Just my opinion anyway. Good luck!

My dad was ✨abusive✨

My father wasn't bossy. It was mother who did the shouting.