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I just am. Why? It isn’t making me feel any better

My neighbor told me some very blunt advice about people not liking me. I explained that this really cool girl that most people love hanging out with, she is funny, feisty, witty and very kind hearted. I mean this girl is fearless and seemed very cool to hang out with but the problem is, she looks uncomfortable when she’s around me. When I come in and some people say hey, she says NOTHING. She’ll move to the next room. She talks to my two best friends but she ignores me. When I tried to talk about my trip to the others (hopefully that girl will be interested in hearing it) she just walked out of the room on her phone. Whenever I come in, she leaves the room, when I talk, she seems very annoyed or ignores me.” I tried. It always fails so I gave up for a while. I asked my elderly neighbor and she said, “Okay I’m going to stop you right there. Stop trying to get this girl to like you. Stop trying to get her to do what she doesn’t want to do. That’s beings passive aggressive and you gotta stop that! This is important to know. To put it bluntly, not everyone is going to like you. Even though you didn’t do anything, there will be that someone that will be annoyed by you and will have opinions about you. You can’t make her like you so stop it. Young people have to realize and understand that not everyone is going to like you!!”
Her words offended me. I was like, “You know, you’re not really making me feel better. You’re making me feel worse.”
She laughed and said, “Who said I was? Heh, I wasn’t trying to make you feel better! I’m telling you all this because it’s the facts. You’re going to feel uncomfortable once in a while so you have to learn to accept that. Life isn’t about sunshine and rainbows. Get out of lala land.”
She sounds so rude sometimes. I don’t ask her for advice because she’s too blunt sometimes and points out stuff.
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Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
Sound advice, good advice isn't always what we want to hear. Your neighbor is right, there will be people who just don't like you for no reason, they may just have an over inflated opinion of themselves or they may have their own issues that prevent them from becoming friends with others. Be the best friend you can be to your friends and let everyone else go their own way. Don't empower them enough to hurt your feelings.
AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F
@Roadsterrider Well I guess so. She didn’t make me feel any better. Why do elder people always have to make us feel worse than we do.
Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
@AutismGirl18 I guess because they don't want us to go through the same things they had to go through, maybe to make something easier to understand so younger people don't get hurt so bad. Or, they could just be mean old pricks that like to watch younger people squirm. I know when I tell my kids things like this or that they shouldn't rely on credit cards or get the least amount of coverage on their car insurance, it isn't because I just want them to be miserable or to spend more money than they need to, it is because those things have bitten me on the ass and it is better to make sure they can't. The good thing about advice, unsolicited or unwanted, is that you are free to ignore it. The real truth is that you are the only person you have to be happy with, nobody else's opinion of you should keep you awake at night.