What did you need to hear as a child or even right now?

That they are proud of me, and that I am not a waste of space.
The only chance I got to spend time with my mother after the age of 12, was if I was in the bar with her. Otherwise I was left alone with my older brother, and he was not so nice. Let's just say, I was an alcoholic by the time I was 16 because my thought process at that age was that is was cool to drink with my mother in the bars, because it got me friends & people who watched out for me. And growing up without a father, I thought all the men around my mom were cool, until some were not so cool and mean. I had a fucked up childhood, where drinking was the norm and it was okay to be treated like shit by mother's boyfriends.

It's not so much what I needed to hear, although there are many things that would have helped. It's what I didn't need to hear. I didn't need to hear and perceive from my parents how incapable I was, how stupid and inferior I was.
I needed to not be beaten for making simple mistakes and things I wasn't responsible for. It wasn't my job to rescue my parents from the pain of their lives. Although, that's not the way THEY saw it.

To be told im precious just the way i am. That its ok to have a strong feminine side. 💔

"don't get married"