wow...is a handshake really that big of a deal?

I shook hands with a new coworker and it felt like he was trying to crush my hand. Then he responded with "whoah!!! lets try that handshake again" I guess he wanted me to squeeze back harder because when i did the second time he was like "that's better". When I shake hands i like to grasp but not really squeeze other peoples hands. I suppose that makes me "weak" right? haha..how judgemental. Oh well...I'm just gonna have to show them how bad@$$ my cashiering skills are. Then we'll see how much that handshake really mattered.

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Lifeofgod

Maybe it's judgmental. But in our over sensitive culture... what isn't judgmental?

I have to admit, if you shake my hand like a wet noodle I do see that as weak. Even in women. I'm not going to assume your weak. But I'd probably look for other signs of it.

An for the record studies have found people who have weak handshakes are often timid.

SethGreene531 · M

A handshake should be firm (and yours should be), but be brief and demonstrate confidence, professionalism and a mutual respect. It is NOT a contest of physical strength or an opportunity for intimidation. Some get silly and do just that and attempt to send a not so subtle message of dominance.
I remember meeting a big dude who was semi-pro football at a church service, he nearly crushed me and I'm no slouch physically, it was clearly intentional.

Its a jerk move.

Christian · 26-30, M

@Seth531: It's just something I never really learned as someone who used to be a complete social outcast. I am working on improving my social skills and I've improved dramatically but I can't believe this one simple gesture wasn't something I thought of improving. I'll do it better next time. It's not like I purposely meant to be disrespectful. I smiled when i did it so I think he understood I was just somewhat socially awkward.

SethGreene531 · M

@Christian: Sorry , I read it through like he was purposely trying to crush you...but I see, he was just looking for a sign of life in your handshake and seems was more an act of comradery and a welcome on board. Thats perfectly ok. And your right, its a new thing for you and with slight adjustment you'll fit in just fine, social graces and all. It is one of those little areas, unless you review job skills and interview prep with a fine tooth comb, that is easily overlooked.
With practice you will come out your shell and be just fine!!

Flenflyys · 31-35, F

I weak handshake is no good you should work on that but that guy is a complete asshole for doing that

Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M

I just roll their fingers if they want it to hurt

DarlingSelah ·

That made me laugh. Grab his dick next time

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