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Fuck up situation?

Have you ever felt that someone you have feelings for is always by your side, but his heart isn’t? It feels like you’re the most important person in his life, yet his heart and mind still belong to someone else. How messed up is that kind of feeling? And how do you escape a situation when he keeps forcing himself to stay in your life?

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Jayghost · 51-55, M

Well I have the same situation with a girl that I really like but I believe that she just likes me as a friend and nothing else. I'm good with that. Because I'd love to have her in my life anyway I can. It may not be the way I want but she's still in my life regardless. If can't have her any other way I'm still happy because I still do have her in my life. So if you can deal with the "just being friends" thing then by all means please do it! It's still very nice to be around them.

ihavenoone · 31-35, F

@Jayghost how can you deal with that? I can’t. I feel like im better off without him than having him feeling like an option or what. I want to have peace. I feel like i dont care about the friendship. I like to prioritize my peace than having him but feels like it’s ruining me

Jayghost · 51-55, M

@ihavenoone Well to each their own. I couldn't imagine what my life would be like without her in it at all! Although I would really love to have sex with her, I'm just as happy to have her as a friend and to be able to talk to her about almost anything. It's actually very nice to have a friend that is a girl. As a guy it's rather enjoyable to get a woman's point of view on certain things. I'm sure you can understand that, being a woman and having some guy friends right? I'm guessing you do have guy friends that are just friends with, right?

PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

Mm No but I can honestly testify that I was seeing someone for about ten years who stopped showing up roughly October of 2023 and I'm not over it entirely but I can tell you honestly I wouldn't have to "force" myself to stay in the life of this New Crush I've got. I just worry that since I'm not over the person who disappeared about how she would take the fact that I'm still getting over someone.

SlippingAway · 46-50, F

I have been in a similar situation, I think you may have to be the one to walk away if he won't and he can't let the other person go.

bookerdana · M

Its called being in love ,sometimes it grows beyond that ,hopefully if it is going to be long term...
If hes forcing himself you need to realize thats really manipulative and deal with it ,cos thats not love

Jayghost · 51-55, M

@bookerdana agreed. Don't force the situation, either of you! Either you want it, or you don't. There is no in-between.

bookerdana · M

@Jayghost Well theres always the fence straddlers😆 but nothing i saw here resembled love

HallofMirrors · 31-35, M

That is tough. I hooe you can find someone that's all in for you.

dale74 · M

It is the exact same a a girl friend zoning a man now we play by your rules. Just because we care about you we know you were not there for us when we wanted it so you shouldn't expect us to give 100 if you didn't when we needed it.

dale74 · M

Have you told him how you feel

greenknight · M

NO, never felt that way.

YoMomma ·

Why do you presume his mind and heart is elsewhere if he is with you? Does he talk about or idolize this other person instead of you?

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