What's the best way to deal with a stalker?

A guy used to stalk me a few years back, but he went to prison for beating up his ex wife. He is out of prison now and back on the scene.

He was parked outside my house yetsterday and followed me to work. He's at most places I go and I can see him staring at me out the corner of my eye. I pretend I don't notice him . It's like he's letting me knows he's back again.

My husband works away and it's impossible for him to come home. I did contact the cops for advice but there isn't anything they can do. I don't even know the guys full name and I haven't actually been threatened.

What's the best way to deal with this situation without provoking the guy as he is violent?

This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »

OogieBoogie · F

Make records, of when you see him.
Photos are great.. They will show where and when, and will identify his face.
Any other times ypu can't take a while photo, keep a little book on you to write them down, ans any other notes that may be relevant, like even your first meeting years ago with ypur dog.

They thrive on the impact and fear they create.
These people have so little to give on a personal level, this is their most powerful way for them to feel a sense of strength within themselves.

Don't let him see that he upsets ypu.
Stay calm, think strong, make it obvious when you take his photo... Shit, take three!😁... Dont hurry away, stay casual, but stay alert.
Dobt wear headphones walking.
And yes, anything you cab do to protect yourself
...if you can't get pepper spray immediately... Apparently wasp spray is pretty damn effective... Not as small a can, but it stings like shit!!!

Good luck.

Stay confident

Show no weakness.

Victorianna · 31-35, F

@OogieBoogie thank you