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How do I deal with a meddling sister in law without alienating the whold family?

She interferes all the time, in many ways. She wants to be in control and based on what happen in the past, she meddled in our marriage, parenting and etc. She is having a vacation in our home at the moment. Me and my husband argue all the time ( one of the main reason is because of her.) She interferes and she gets involved despite the fact that she doesn't have a right to do so. I have accepted her in here into my home to have a vacation but instead of respecting and at least tell his brother off, she meddles and always have something to say in every situation. I would like her to shut her mouth as she is making the situation a lot worse.

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SW-User

Kick her in the vagina.

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SW-User

@Bittersweet84 👍️

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SW-User

😂 🤧@SW-User

LadyGrace ·

This is just horrible. I am so sorry you have to endure this. When is she leaving?

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LadyGrace ·

I think you need to have a talk with her now. And that is really hard because you are caught in the middle and then your husband would probably get mad at you. But something needs to be done here, and quick. You should not have to endure this in your own home! 😡@Bittersweet84

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

My husband has been really mad at me and he is always blaming me, saying I am not being nice to his sister. I am
not being nice, I have recommended his sister for a job, bought her a laptop table and internet cable so that she could work here while she is having a vacation. Apparently, for my husband this is not a gesture of being nice. And hey! I washes her clothes too. @LadyGrace

LadyGrace ·

That’s awful!!! @Bittersweet84

Hdryder555 · 61-69, M

Tell her to stop straight up to her face

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

I actually did. I said that's what you think but for the way your brother speaks to me is absolutely disgusting. She thinks that it's normal for my husband to yell at me. @Hdryder555

Hdryder555 · 61-69, M

@Bittersweet84 then sweetheart you don't need help with your sister in-law you need a new husband

LadyGrace ·

I agree!!! @Hdryder555

TwiddlerofThumbs · F

You stop responding to her meddling. All of you. Just act like it never happened. Don't allow her to push your buttons or take charge of issues that have nothing to do with her.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

I have been ignoring and avoiding her for the past few days.@TwiddlerofThumbs

mrbuddhawannabe · 56-60, M

It sounds like it is your husband is your problem. It sounds like he is taking her side rather than his wife's/your side.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

It is always like that over the years. My husband has got a bipolar disorder. His temper gets really bad, but it seems ok for his family to treat me that way.@mrbuddhawannabe

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monkeysdevil007 · 46-50, M

Dump the selfish bitch's bags by the front door and tell her that seeing as she has done nothing but abuse your hospitality she can fuck right off . If that fails then go for plan B

Meowsolini · 46-50, F

Kick her in the vagina.

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Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

She is finaly gone now. There is peace in the house. Husband don't make too much argument anymore, unlike when she was here. There was really something fishy about her that's causing all the contention here in our family.@LadyGrace

LadyGrace ·

Yay!!!! I am SO glad for you!! Tickled to death!! You poor thing. @Bittersweet84

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

It was like hell with her in the house.@LadyGrace

SW-User

Just tell her and him that her getting involved is not appropriate

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

I have told her that to be honest. One time I threw her out of my house because of sticking her nose to my parenting. @SW-User

revenant · F

Your husband seems to be the bigger problem

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

I know, if he really loves me he wont do such things, to make me sad.@revenant

LyricalOne · F

Your husband’s family, he needs to grow a backbone and set her straight.

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LyricalOne · F

@Bittersweet84 Just a portion of the money, and tell her to make it less than three weeks. Someone’s got to stand up to this woman or you might as well get used to a lifetime of abuse.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

I know. My husband should sort this out. Husband expects for meto be the tour guide, take her out to this places etc. But I have stopped altogether. I had enough. Thank you @LyricalOne . This suggestions means so much for me.

LyricalOne · F

@Bittersweet84 Stay strong and all the best. 🙂

Wraithorn · 51-55, M

Ooh, that's a tough one. I'm not sure there is a way to stand up for yourself there without alienating the family. Possibly you need an ally on that side of the family and discuss strategy with them. Good luck.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

I had to like ignore my husband as well as there's already so much contention in the house.@Wraithorn

Wraithorn · 51-55, M

@Bittersweet84 Maybe you could go stay in a hotel and charge it to your husband's credit card until his sister learns some respect or leaves.

JemmaaLouiisee · F

put her in a scold's bridle

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

Have a nice conversation with her and if she can’t follow guidelines write her off. I drew the line with that. Somebody was gonna stick for me and so I did it. Some people are only comfortable being shit stirrers.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

She is definitely a shit stirrer. And I think she jas been brainwashing
my husband to take my daughter away from me.@Keepitsimple

TimingQuasars

I dont really get whats going on. But i wish i was married.. I would never make my wife mad i would always take her side. And to treat her like a godess. I dint know what thats like... But i really want to know...and thr intinate moments aswell

nedkelly · 61-69, M

Just tell her shut the fuck up and worry about your own family for a change

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

I actually told her that last night. @nedkelly

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Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

Yes,, my husband gets worse when she brainwashes him with things, like recently, my husband threatened me to take
my daughter away from me.@monimathu

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Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

This is my property, and if she wont sort herself out I will throw her out from my home.@monimathu

bijouxbroussard · F

The bottom line is, your husband has to support [b]you[/b] or you're not going to win that battle. It's his family and they will take his cue on how to treat you based upon what [b]he[/b] allows, unfortunately. If [b]he's[/b] letting them weigh in and get between the two of you, you've lost.

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

Unfortunately, he doesn't balls to do so. He seems to believe everything his sister say to him. I have stopped engaging in any conversations with both of them.@bijouxbroussard

Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F

I didn't cook dinner as well as this twat is very picky with foods. @bijouxbroussard

bijouxbroussard · F

@Bittersweet84 That’s an unfortunate situation. You should be able to keep anyone out of your home if they won’t treat you with respect. That’s impossible to do if your husband enables them. And he has to be the one to rein them in. Anything [b]you[/b] say or do will be perceived as an attack on his family—and you can count on them reporting it to [b]him[/b] from that perspective.

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