What does this even mean?

[b]Other person:[/b] "You look pissed."
[b]Me:[/b] "I'm not. Why do people say that?"
[b]Other person:[/b] You just always look like you're pissed."
[b]Me:[/b] That's how I look. I'm not pissed.
[b]Other person:[/b] "Well, maybe it's because you are so emotionally absent."
[b]Me:[/b] But, I told you, I'm not pissed."
[b]Other person:[/b] "Well, don't be so cold."
[b]Me:[/b] At this point, I feel pissed and I spend most of the day thinking about whether I really am emotionally absent and why this person thinks I am.

--Conversation abridged. 10 Nov. 2018

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MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

Well perhaps you are a bit cold (I don't know), but that's just you. As long as you're not mean then.. be you in the way you're comfortable with.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@MartinTheFirst But, I'm NOT cold. I mean maybe a bit... but it's... you know... the shyness. No one understands...

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@MarkPaul Well you just contradicted yourself. Either you're not cold, or you're a bit cold, whatever the reason.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@MartinTheFirst I'm not. I'm like I am here...

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@MarkPaul Well it's difficult to interpret someone's character from text, but the people who called you cold doesn't have to be correct.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@MartinTheFirst Yeah, that's true on both counts. I don't even know why it annoyed me.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@MarkPaul I understand why it annoyed you

it's not how you want to see yourself

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@MartinTheFirst Yeah, that's true too. I was minding my own business and was confronted with this and yeah, that's not how I want to be perceived. But, I don't want to just conform for some petty human reason. I mean I wasn't pissed... I'm not cold... I know all about my emotional issues, but it's not like I'm emotionally absent. Damn!