So what are the reasons for our loneliness?

I am trying to figure mine out...i mean i can see how i want humane contact, i ask people out and after sometime I don't want them. I find them either depressive, shallow, gossiping...I struggle to be my true self around others. I am not perfect either. And I am not thinking i am any superior...or am I thinking that? I find it hard to connect. It shouldn't be this way, we are supposed to be sharing our lives ❤️ I, we, shouldn't be living them alone..

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SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

I feel lonely when I cannot connect to those around me. So outwardly I might appear to be social and involved, but inwardly I feel genuinely lonely. Sometimes the answer to loneliness is to withdraw and make do with your own company.

being · 36-40, F

@SunshineGirl oh wow...thank you for sharing...i always get the impression that social people aren't keen with that feeling but i am seeing it superficially.. this for you -> ❤️
Working on my social skills, i am trying to work on those for years.., a friend once told me, after he's been observing my way of interactions, that i should try to "float" in conversations. Meaning, i can stay on the surface, talk to others and don't dive in any subject really, rather stay on a floating state of discussing .. is it maybe this that you find it difficult to connect, you aren't diving anywhere..?
As with everything, all are needed, the depth to explore and the surface to relax and breathe

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

@being You're welcome 😊 I often find socialising at work to be contrived and quite tiring. I'm sensitive to people finding my awkwardness uncomfortable and that makes me even more awkward. I hate gossip and talking for the sake of it, I'm much happier when I've got something deeper to talk about 🙂 I'm not autustic, but I do have some of the character traits of my wife who has mild autism . . at least she doesn't have to pretend to be interested 😅 I wish people were a little more tolerant of alternative communication preferences and not be so quick to criticise and judge others x