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Lesson of last night

When someone rants, they want sympathy. Give it or stay away. If you try to use reason or explain ethics, their friends will appear out of nowhere, argue, accuse /abuse and block you. Doesn’t matter whether you are friends or not. 😊
Learning’s from SW 😃🙏
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
It's not that surprising that people post to get their feelings heard instead of [u]corrected[/u].

If I'm hurt I don't want a discussion I want empathy. Sure you can be supportive and give advice, but a rule of thumb is to show support first and start with advice later.

Another rule of thumb is you never know who's on the other side of the screen or what they're going through so try to not judge. Take distance if necessary.

Being blocked is hard for many, but it's inevitable that it will happen and we can't control that.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@Queendragonfly That is definitely all true, but coming in strong when someone is looking for sympathy is an excellent way to get blocked. He didn't like being blocked. He got his feelings hurt and wanted sympathy.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Musicman Yeah, hopefully he understands the other user better now. Sometimes we just want people on our side.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@Queendragonfly Exactly! A little kindness goes a long way. Then like you said. If they respond then later in the thread you can offer some advice.
Musicman · 61-69, M
Sometimes all people want is someone to just listen to them.
The person 'ranting' does not have any control over what other people say and do on their posts.
The person seen as ranting could also just be sharing their thoughts and feelings like how you are right now. How is your post any different?
It is your interpretation they are ranting and want certain words. And now this post is to garner sympathy?
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@thinkingoutloud Exactly. OP wants sympathy while judging the other user for wanting the same.
It’s not too late to learn that lesson. :)

If you can’t offer the words they want to hear, it is best to stay away.
WandererTony · 56-60, M
@Lilnonames oh ok, someone thought I was an ass too and blocked me for trying to reason. 😃
@WandererTony
It’s not for us ‘readers’ to decide what they needed to hear.

Sometimes being honest with our views is seen as not being kind.

When people rant, more often than not, they want someone to side with them and see their POV.
WandererTony · 56-60, M
@CookieCrumbs true that. But going around spreading wisdom to all and sundry is fun too. 😁
Getting blocked by their friends is just a side effect 🤪
SW-User
I try to stay away from these types of things aka drama ...I'll pass thank you
AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
Mostly people just want to get things off our chest.

I vent on here to let it out. I don't want sympathy or advice, nor do I need someone to agree with me.

I find it annoying when people give unsolicited advice, then get upset when I don't agree with it though. Nobody really knows me, and the unsolicited wisdom of others can really be crap. Best to let people figure it out their way.
MoonlightLullaby · 41-45, F
There are so many lessons waiting to be made here. My list is long. I never understand when the friends come ganging up on people. Pretty pathetic.🤨

At least you tried.🤗
WandererTony · 56-60, M
@MoonlightLullaby won’t be the last, true. Since we won’t stop passing wise cracks. 😁
Please don’t feel sorry. And who is Susie?
MoonlightLullaby · 41-45, F
@WandererTony I'm Sensitive Susie, silly 🤓
WandererTony · 56-60, M
@MoonlightLullaby and I am Dumbo Daniel 😂

Alliterations come naturally to you?
I wouldn’t worry about their emotional volatility. Their loss
WandererTony · 56-60, M
@BeefySenpie yes it doesn’t bother one much. 👍
TheNumber34 · 46-50, M
Not always true. Some rants are just rants.
WrngWlf · 46-50, F
Smart thinking
Lilnonames · F
I agree but I've blocked friends of friends and one day I block 72,s w life

 
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