Lesson of last night

When someone rants, they want sympathy. Give it or stay away. If you try to use reason or explain ethics, their friends will appear out of nowhere, argue, accuse /abuse and block you. Doesn’t matter whether you are friends or not. 😊
Learning’s from SW 😃🙏

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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

It's not that surprising that people post to get their feelings heard instead of [u]corrected[/u].

If I'm hurt I don't want a discussion I want empathy. Sure you can be supportive and give advice, but a rule of thumb is to show support first and start with advice later.

Another rule of thumb is you never know who's on the other side of the screen or what they're going through so try to not judge. Take distance if necessary.

Being blocked is hard for many, but it's inevitable that it will happen and we can't control that.

Musicman · 61-69, M

@Queendragonfly I completely agree with you. When people post like that they are looking for sympathy not advice. Their post never said I need advice. What would you do. Then when he came on strong he got blocked and got his feelings hurt.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Musicman Yes. But also, he's not a bad person for giving advice, it can happen to all of us, we see a post and see it as a problem instead of just needing to vent, we have an idea of something that can help so we share it. But it comes with a risk of not being appreciated and blocked even. It's good to have that in mind.

Musicman · 61-69, M

@Queendragonfly That is definitely all true, but coming in strong when someone is looking for sympathy is an excellent way to get blocked. He didn't like being blocked. He got his feelings hurt and wanted sympathy.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Musicman Yeah, hopefully he understands the other user better now. Sometimes we just want people on our side.

Musicman · 61-69, M

@Queendragonfly Exactly! A little kindness goes a long way. Then like you said. If they respond then later in the thread you can offer some advice.