I have not been drinking as much as I once was. Now when I do drink , it honestly does not make me feel too good afterwards. I know over all that’s a

Good thing, considering that drinking isn’t that great for you to begin with. That being said, becoming this “new version” of myself shouldn’t be scary, but I find myself with fear. For the longest time I’d save my money to go out for a few drinks, but now if I’m not working to save my money for drinks- what am I saving it for? Why am I working? What does this mean for my future?

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ElizaJane · 56-60, F

You should find something you really love and make that your focus. When I quit drinking I focused on my garden. It was a good substitute because it was alive and "nagged" me every day to water or weed or figure out what I was doing wrong, what to add or subtract. It connected me to other people as my interest grew, as drinking once had, and people did notice I was getting really good at it😂
I also used it as a reward for a hard day or when I had something to celebrate. Some new things for the garden, instead of a round at the bar.
I know this seems too easy, but I'm sober 16 years now.
Its important to celebrate yourself!
Best of luck