What really matters to you..
I've recently been having this debate with a friend and figured I'd get some input from you all. Are looks really that important?
31-35, F
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Faust76 · 46-50, M
Still kinda depends *for what*. In-relationship, the most recent significant study was probably http://newsroom.ucla.edu/stories/do-looks-really-matter-yes-and-209451 which is quoted:
"The [less attractive] husbands seemed to be basically more committed, more invested in pleasing their wives when they felt that they were getting a pretty good deal. Because for men, the attractiveness of their wives is part of the deal," said Karney, who is also an adjunct behavioral scientist at the RAND Corporation.
"For women, that’s not part of the deal. The deal that women get isn’t being with an attractive man. It’s being with a protective man, or a wealthy man, or an ambitious man, or even a sensitive man. So they didn’t care as much about the appearance of their husbands."
It all comes very heavily on the side that when an "unattractive" looking man gets together with drop dead gorgeous woman, it's better for everybody in very many ways. Of course, before one gets too excited for these findings, one way or other, the same release points out: "We know that physical attractiveness really matters when people are getting to know each other. There are decades of research [that show that] people who are physically attractive are treated very differently by strangers," Karney said.
Of course, there's at least one area where attractiveness REALLY matters. And that's in the job market and career options: http://www.thejournal.ie/readme/appearance-applying-for-a-job-2562008-Jan2016/ - I guess this goes to say the obvious, that contemporarily preferred standards of appearance matter much more heavily to the society, than they do to individual relationships where it provides the initial attraction to stand out among 3.75 billion competitors. But after that, other issues of compatibility become much more significant. Except, apparently, the woman should always be more attractive than the guy. o.O
"The [less attractive] husbands seemed to be basically more committed, more invested in pleasing their wives when they felt that they were getting a pretty good deal. Because for men, the attractiveness of their wives is part of the deal," said Karney, who is also an adjunct behavioral scientist at the RAND Corporation.
"For women, that’s not part of the deal. The deal that women get isn’t being with an attractive man. It’s being with a protective man, or a wealthy man, or an ambitious man, or even a sensitive man. So they didn’t care as much about the appearance of their husbands."
It all comes very heavily on the side that when an "unattractive" looking man gets together with drop dead gorgeous woman, it's better for everybody in very many ways. Of course, before one gets too excited for these findings, one way or other, the same release points out: "We know that physical attractiveness really matters when people are getting to know each other. There are decades of research [that show that] people who are physically attractive are treated very differently by strangers," Karney said.
Of course, there's at least one area where attractiveness REALLY matters. And that's in the job market and career options: http://www.thejournal.ie/readme/appearance-applying-for-a-job-2562008-Jan2016/ - I guess this goes to say the obvious, that contemporarily preferred standards of appearance matter much more heavily to the society, than they do to individual relationships where it provides the initial attraction to stand out among 3.75 billion competitors. But after that, other issues of compatibility become much more significant. Except, apparently, the woman should always be more attractive than the guy. o.O