I’m just trying to understand how to communicate with my son better

And why him and his dad have this magic bond and I don’t with him when it’s always been me who takes care of him and buy him his favorite things. When I go shopping I look for things he might like and I buy it for him because I love him. Yall I love my baby boy to pieces. It hurts because I can buy his favorite foods but he wants his daddy to cook it and then he gets credit for it and it just seems like I’m the parent who doesn’t do anything and when he looks back and he’s telling the world how he grew up he’s just gonna mention all the memories he had with his dad and just make me look like I was a deadbeat. That’s what I worry about and it’s just not fair. Idk how I’m supposed to get him to love me like how he loves his dad. Idk why he doesn’t want me or why he hates me. It’s just sad.

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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

Boys go through phases where they want to be close to their dad.

Even being the lazy lump my son's dad is, he prefers his company most of the time. Even though I do literally everything, he gets very excited to have his dad's attention.

I chalk it up to him feeling safe and secure with me. His dad is intermittent and distant, so he craves more stability with him. So he goes for his attention more.

It's best to not take it to heart. Keep loving your baby boy the way you do. He loves you too. Very very much. He loves his dad too but you'll always be his safe place.

Sazzio · 36-40, M

Wow wow! Slow down, take it easy.

How old is your son? I understand shopping / cooking but wha about taking him to the park? Do u read to him? Sing to him? Try these methods.

Most importantly does the dad make an attempt to get u both involved in an activity? Is the dad encouraging for him to love you?

Give it time. My son is 3.5 years and started loving me more than his dranddad. Ok first year I showed less interest as "He only a baby wha does he understand?" Now he pays attention to me cause of me singing and playing. Even becoming a commentator "Baby has a red ball" or "Baby is on the slide, down the slide -" whaeva the activities.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

I dont think he hates you at all. I am not there but what you need to focus on is that that boy is blessed to have a father that loves and cares for him enough to do things with him that way. A lot of children don’t have a father like that. My ex was too self-centered to spend quality time with our daughter. He would get visitation every two weeks, drive straight to his parents home, eat lunch with them and then make an excuse to go fishing or ‘helping his cousin with something” whatever. He dumped her on them for the whole weekend.

Kstrong · 56-60, F

He will go through phases.... I remember my kids telling me I was a mean mom. I responded that the world needs more mean moms then with how much I love them and poured into them

SilverF0x · 46-50, M

I’m sure he loves you

JackDaniels · 46-50, M

He loves you.

TurtlePink · 22-25, F

@JackDaniels then why do I feel like he wishes he had a different mother

JackDaniels · 46-50, M

@TurtlePink It will not always be that way. Give him some time.

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