I’m just trying to understand how to communicate with my son better

And why him and his dad have this magic bond and I don’t with him when it’s always been me who takes care of him and buy him his favorite things. When I go shopping I look for things he might like and I buy it for him because I love him. Yall I love my baby boy to pieces. It hurts because I can buy his favorite foods but he wants his daddy to cook it and then he gets credit for it and it just seems like I’m the parent who doesn’t do anything and when he looks back and he’s telling the world how he grew up he’s just gonna mention all the memories he had with his dad and just make me look like I was a deadbeat. That’s what I worry about and it’s just not fair. Idk how I’m supposed to get him to love me like how he loves his dad. Idk why he doesn’t want me or why he hates me. It’s just sad.

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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

Boys go through phases where they want to be close to their dad.

Even being the lazy lump my son's dad is, he prefers his company most of the time. Even though I do literally everything, he gets very excited to have his dad's attention.

I chalk it up to him feeling safe and secure with me. His dad is intermittent and distant, so he craves more stability with him. So he goes for his attention more.

It's best to not take it to heart. Keep loving your baby boy the way you do. He loves you too. Very very much. He loves his dad too but you'll always be his safe place.