Another invasion incident at the grocery store...

The check-out cashier who was friendly and efficient commented that she thought it looked like I worked out. I said that I did but I suddenly felt like she was examining me. She started making comments on my purchases... all complimentary... and laughed and said, "Don't mind me, I'm just speaking in clichés..." things like "Oh good for you, an apple a day will keep you healthy..." I wasn't sure what to say back, so I resorted to my usual silent smile.

On her store apron, she had a digital name tag that scrolled "Deneese, pronounced Denise. Pronouns: Her/She." She smiled a lot at me which felt intrusive and asked me some personal questions: "How often do you shop here," Did you find everything you wanted," and things like that. When I finally finished and was walking out, I felt like I had been invaded.

Top | New | Old

NOS4R2 · 41-45

Maybe she's a talker when she feels nervous.
Some people find silence in interactions as tangibly awkward and invasive as you find overly talkative people?

sstronaut

How is that invasion?

Either she was attempting to flirt with you, or she was absolutely bored out of her mind and just trying to make small talk to pass the time, and/or both.

View 5 more replies »

RunTheJulz · 46-50, F

@sstronaut I have read that it’s become more common for people to make dental/doctors appointments due to their fear of speaking to someone who they don’t know on the phone. I think it’s a side effect from having the ability to do so much through the internets and therefore small talk is becoming a bit of a lost art. I don’t know if there’s a solution other than through repetition things that are anxiety inducing become easier to deal with and find coping mechanisms for.
@MarkPaul There is no way that the cashier can know that she caught you off guard. Especially if you were smiling at her. I would say that she is just forward not “forceful”. At the very least she is friendly and most people welcome that kind of exchange in public. If she doesn’t pick up on social cues either then she might not have even realized how it might feel for you.
You’re young and I think you can become more comfortable with this kind of situation. I hope you understand I’m not intending to be judgmental. And I hope that your future interactions become more pleasant.

sstronaut

@MarkPaul If there is one, have you considered the self checkout line?

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@sstronaut Yes, yes... I use it all the time. Except this time.

BlueVeins · 22-25

Was she cute?

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@BlueVeins Yeah, kind of, I guess. She seemed friendly, studious, and fresh (not a lot of make-up).

RunTheJulz · 46-50, F

Probably just a new hire employee and making conversation passes her shift time easily.

TryingtoLava

Its called customer service mark you werent invaded hahah @deadgerbil your totally not antisocial thou i mean you went to dinner that one time

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@TryingtoLava Well, I'm not a fan of a lot of small talk if that's what it was. And, it wasn't really a dinner. It was more of a group outing with lots of appetizers. And, yeah that counts as not being anti-social.

poisonouscupcake · 22-25, F

gen z incel final boss

View 2 more replies »

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@poisonouscupcake OMG. I'm not an incel. I'm sophisticated and a gentleman.

Punches · 46-50, F

@poisonouscupcake

gen z incel final boss

tss tss tss, heh heh heh, HA HA HA HA 🤣 I mean ma'am, you are NOT kidding here!

@MarkPaul Now Mark, had you handled things different, like I dunno, asked what she is doing tonight, you MIGHT be out on a date right now, with hopes that maybe later she would be resting her ankles on your shoulders. Instead of spending saturday night with the rest of us SW lo5ers.

You might be wondering why she would be resting her ankles on your shoulders. Well, sometimes when a man and woman are together, they like to play a game called "Hide the sausage".

BTW you always feel "invaded".

TryingtoLava

@poisonouscupcake hahaha hes sophisticated and a gentleman gosh dangit!!!!

Tumbleweed · F

Girl, you need therapy

Add a comment...