How do you love someone unconditionally?

They say remove the toxic people in your life...but is it worth it if it leaves you alone?

Nobody is perfect. What happens if you avoid people like plague because of how much they hurt you? They say people change. Well they don't if they don't want to, and it's up to you to harden your heart so their behavior would hurt you no more. But what if they're your responsibility? What if you give and give and yet they don't bother to thank you or to help?

What happens if the person hurting you the most, the one who doesn't want to change for you is family?

How do you find the balance?

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4meAndyou · F

For myself, I can say that I love many people...even some of the toxic people who have hurt me in the past. But I learned over time that it's important to love yourself, also. If you do not mother yourself, and care for yourself tenderly, you will suffer.

I decided to care for myself in that way, and distance myself from those who were toxic, and who hurt me badly.

The incredible relief you feel when you remove yourself from those people makes you want to float away. It feels so good when the pain finally stops.

It's not good to avoid people like the plague...and you needn't do that. Just take your time getting to know people until you are sure they are not more of the same. You don't need to get close until you are sure.