Would you go to the wedding of your cousins who you never see and who never shows up for anything?
My aunt has two adult daughters, both in their 20's. One is getting married.
Throughout the years, they never come to anything. They are not present at family functions, family dinners, celebrations, (all of which are rare) nor holidays.
Didn't come to my graduation (didn't even get a congratulations), didn't come to my sisters wedding reception (courthouse wedding), never come to the holiday celebrations.
The only reason I saw them last year was because it was at their parents house, where they still live.
They were standoffish (per usual).
One of my immediate family members died a few months ago and I'm certain the only reason they were at the funeral is because they were on program to do something. One gave me a hug, with no words. It felt fake.
NOTE: there have been no disagreements, no arguments, no fights. Just unsupportive cousins.
I am learning not to be there for people who aren't there for me.
I don't want to be at the wedding.
What would you do?
Throughout the years, they never come to anything. They are not present at family functions, family dinners, celebrations, (all of which are rare) nor holidays.
Didn't come to my graduation (didn't even get a congratulations), didn't come to my sisters wedding reception (courthouse wedding), never come to the holiday celebrations.
The only reason I saw them last year was because it was at their parents house, where they still live.
They were standoffish (per usual).
One of my immediate family members died a few months ago and I'm certain the only reason they were at the funeral is because they were on program to do something. One gave me a hug, with no words. It felt fake.
NOTE: there have been no disagreements, no arguments, no fights. Just unsupportive cousins.
I am learning not to be there for people who aren't there for me.
I don't want to be at the wedding.
What would you do?
