Do you think I was mean for telling my sister that her friend’s breakdown isn’t my problem?

So my older sister hasn’t heard from her best friend in a week she last heard from her was last Tuesday. She has called and texted. She was having some mental breakdown. She was telling me about it and I just looked at her and said, “So what do you want me to do about it? That isn’t my problem. Just wait until she messages back. I’m sure she’ll text back.”
I know it sounds mean but I have my own problems to worry about. I am 17 and got to worry about my upcoming senior year of high school.

Top | Newest First | Oldest First

Barny52 · 56-60, M

Just listen and let it go in one ear an out other but show a bit of sympathy for them both doesn’t cost you anything

Sam17 · 18-21, M

Maybe shouldn't have been so blunt about it
You could have said hope she gets better

View 2 more replies »

MissyMoo04 · 18-21, F

@Sam17 well I understand she’s worried but what am I supposed to do? I’m not gonna pretend and say that she is my problem when she’s not. I’m just telling the truth

Sam17 · 18-21, M

@MissyMoo04 that's true but I don't think your sister knew what to do not all olders know all the answers and maybe she thinks you were the best person to ask for advice

Fluffybull · F

@MissyMoo04 You can't be "sure" that someone is going to be alright if they have mental health problems!!! You may be in a similar situation yourself one day!

ABCDEF7 · M

She needed someone to share and discuss what she is concerned about, if you can't help out, you can at least be a good listener.

MissyMoo04 · 18-21, F

@ABCDEF7 I don’t know anything about mental breakdown I’m just a kid. Even our dad told her that he doesn’t know what to tell her and then just wait till she replies back. He isn’t a synthetic person. Neither an I.

ABCDEF7 · M

@MissyMoo04 You don't need to know anything to listen.

Being unsympathetic is not you qualification that you should flaunt or make an excuse of. It's up to you how you chooses to interact with others. No other one is pushing you to do so.

Does unsympathetic mean also not expecting sympathy.?

Spoiledbrat · F

You could be nicer. You never know when you're going to need her or a friend.

MissyMoo04 · 18-21, F

@Spoiledbrat yeah you have a point there but I don’t understand this mental breakdown stuff. Even our dad told her that he doesn’t know what to tell her and just wait till she responds. He isn’t a sympathetic person. Neither am I.

Spoiledbrat · F

I mean you're posting about it. There must be a reason. @MissyMoo04

Ontheroad · M

Yes, sounds a bit cold... often just listening is all one needs, or even should do.

Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

It was mean if you meant it to be mean.

People do not usually come looking for solutions, understanding Yes, but solutions no.

It is not about feeling sorry for them, it is about understanding they are in a worrying position.

Add a comment...