Brother refuses to put aggressive pitbulls in different area for our small children during thanksgiving. Are we crazy to ask?

My brother is my ONLY relative that I would be able to see during the holidays. I was very excited to see him, and go over there for the holidays and bring food and stuff but they recently adopted a new pitbull, great pyranese mix. The dog is aggressive growling at us and our children the last time we saw them. They are never around small children and definitely haven’t been around a little toddler as young as ours.
He doesn’t see the dog as aggressive but also pointed out how it has torn the bottom of their sun loungers up and ripped up sprinkler heads. They not only have the one, but actually 2! The other regularly kills animals in their backyard. My brother thinks it’s normal and funny.

We have a 15 month old little boy who is also very busy and likes to get into everything. He pulls and tugs on our own little dogs tails and ears and really doesn’t have the ability to sit still long. We also have a 4 year old.

Out of concern and really just precaution more so about how our kids don’t really have the know how to act around dogs, I just asked if he could put the dogs in their covered patio area (completely sealed, and we are in Texas it’s going to be 70 degrees that day) we only plan to be there for an hour maybe 1.5 at the most. My brother refuses absolutely refuses to put the dogs outside or in another room while the kids are there.. he went another step saying that we are crazy and rude for asking that and that he 100% thinks our fears are irrational. He felt very strongly about it and I feel like it’s driving a wedge between us.

Very sad because he’s the only relative I have left in my family other than my husbands side. We aren’t asking him to get rid of the dogs or even keep them outside all day, just while the small kids are there for a very short period of time.

He was very offended by our ask and took it very personally. is this an absurd ask on our part? How can I get him to understand where we are coming from? He also refuses to meet anywhere else except his home.

We’ve made a decision not to go sadly and my brother doesn’t understand he just thinks that there has to be some other reason because he can’t believe we would be worried about the dogs.

Rokasu · 36-40, M

If the dogs have zero training around humans, then you have a genuine concern. If they're used to humans, and somewhat trained to respond/behave accordingly, the concern is no longer the dog but how the children handle the dog.

Not all dogs are patient with kids. Not all kids know how to handle dogs. If you suspect your kiddos are not dog-savvy, you're better off not going. All it takes is one "play hit" from a kid and the dog could snap at them. Most they'll get a warning scratch. Worst they'll get is a bite that could lead to serious infection.

This isn't even just aggressive, untrained dogs. Some dogs just don't like kids. Never let your kids go near a dog you don't trust (Which should be most dogs). Always be cautious.

And for the record, you should always ask permission to approach an owner's dog. They can give you all the details upfront. Better than a potential ER trip and them having to legally put down their dog.