People tell me to be honest and when I am they say I am being mean

they want your honesty to support what they believe,,
if they were honest they might say
Be honest and agree with me so i feel validated,,

Consider
"does this make my Butt look too big?"

You can be honest and be tactful..... But then again no matter what you say, people have a hard time when you give them the truth!

People can be difficult to please. :p
Honesty is usually recieved better when it's served with a side of tact.

It's possible to be honest and mean at the same time

I have this problem as well

People are stupid 😋