@KaysHealingPath I don't have any kids YET, my stepson's in his own relationship so I don't need to worry too much, well and I know if anyone bothers him my fiance goes into scary extreme mama bear mode fast, I'd probably let her hurt whoever it maybe. .
@Crypitika lol funny you think she needs you to “let her” 🤣 mama bears don’t ask, we do and then answer any questions after 😅😅😅
My oldest is not my husbands biological son, but he’s an amazing father to him, he adopted my son when he was 10 but has raised him since he was a few weeks old, he was my best friend before we started dating, so he stepped into dad role when my ex left, we started dating months later, it wasn’t what we intended but things just sort of fell into place. He wasn’t seeking out being a dad to someone else’s child, heck he always said he’d never date a single mom, but not only did he date one, he married one and then we had our own children.
If he had been a stranger offering to “be there” for me and my son I would have immediately pushed him aside. I went through a lot of sexual abuse as a child at the hands of my mothers husband, it took a long time for me to fully trust my husband with my son, but here we are 15yrs later and he’s a papa bear, if anyone dare threaten our sons he’s end up in jail.
I understand, we're extremely protective of him, even though he is 19 (she was 16 almost 17 when was born), and able to make his own mistakes. Mistakes we're letting him make of course.
I never planned on dating a widowed mother at all. Her son was 15 when we met so he wasn't young, but I didn't want to enter a relationship if her son didn't like me or she wasn't comfortable with it. She was the one that pursued me, even though I thought she was pretty cool, I didn't know if I'd be ready to raise a teen, as I was a handful at that age. Even though he's not mine, I've tried my hardest to help guide him. I don't think protectiveness will ever fade.
