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How do I tell my mom she’s embarrassing me?

I’m sure all of you can relate to this somewhat, I know all parents can be embarrassing from time to time but one thing my mom does really makes it difficult for me to have people over. In the middle of the kitchen, hanging on the wall is a wooden paddle my mom used to use on me when I was a kid. I’m a senior in high school now so it’s obviously not in use anymore but my mom still chooses to hang it up on full display. I have no resentment towards my mom for how she disciplined me but leaving it up on the wall is pretty annoying. A couple weeks ago for instance I invited a girl over who I like and while we were hanging out she couldn’t help but notice it. You could try to pass it off as a cooking utensil but the holes in it pretty much give it away. Naturally she asked me about it and my mom was in the room so this struck up a conversation that was extremely uncomfortable for me. I don’t think my mom thinks it’s a big deal and I don’t want to hurt her feelings but it does make me hesitate to invite people over. How should I bring this up to my mom?
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You say she doesn't use it any more right?

Throw the bastard thing out!... Easy

Or, go all Yzma on it 😊
utfan · 22-25, M
@BoobooSnafu I think this the route I’m gonna end up taking 😂
@utfan hehe... Honestly,,, all funny put aside.. This issue has to be resolved.
You can confront her about it... I domt know your mother's personality - but the fact that it's still on the wall is.... Weird.
It's - psychological.

If she was willing to paddle you repeatedly asap punishment - my doubt towards her being soft and epathetic... Is strong.

If I was to get all "psychology major"
On you - "It's tjere on the wall as a subliminal symbol of her control over you."

I'm a mum, and I taught my children- hopefully - to be able to manage their own decisions and grow into adults (my daughter is nearly 20 now). And I try to remind myself she is now an adult - amd needs yo he treated as such.

I agree _ having that on the wall is.... Demeaning.

IMHO🤷‍♀️

And if I was in your position - i'd just quietly remove it on the day the trashmen come...
utfan · 22-25, M
@BoobooSnafu thanks I really appreciate all the advice. I think my mom would probably understand if I talked to her about it but I do agree that she keeps it up there to kinda keep me in my place