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Sarcasm, Wit & Humor - But Embarrass Someone?

I love sarcasm, when used in conjunction with wit and humor, but why do people (at least online) feel so compelled to embarrass or poke at a person he/she doesn’t know, who’s hanging out and having a good time?

And emojis... when did these little icons become conveyors of emotion when they can be so easily misunderstood? It’s difficult enough to understand words and intent sometimes when tone and translation between languages are factors.

To those who make condescending drive-by comments on posts, do you enjoy doing that? Do you like to embarrass people? Does it give you joy trying to make someone feel inferior to you?

We’re all guilty of making comments that we later rethink (narcissists like Trump excepted), and in some situations minor and some more so than others, but is it because you’re not physically present and can hide behind your keyboard and screen that drives one to do that?

Old school, I put thought into nearly every post or sometimes just post to release for fun. And when I make a mistake or I don’t act with the best or most appropriate response, I am first to admit it. And I’m totally fine with laughing at myself when I’ve goofed, looked silly or fallen on my ass. Do you think we could all be a little more light-hearted, playful and self-deprecating?

I’m just asking questions. I’m not a fan of social media. I’m new to it all in the last year or two. I just don’t understand. Open forum, folks. Please enlighten me. Thanks so much.
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Graylight · 51-55, F
Some users are out for a serious discussion. Others, light-hearted fun and we'll post humorous comments that mostly hit the target but sometimes fall short. And then there are those - the transplanted anonymous 13 year olds - who express their insecurities, rage, discomfort or desperate need to feel superior through snarky, and thoughtless posts.

Talking with users from different lands is hard enough, but when you combine that with the decidedly amorphous language of the internet, misunderstandings are bound to happen. Most importantly, the internet doesn't require the one thing that binds most people together socially, and that's the dictate and more of manners and decency. It's easy to hurl an insult and run, wherein polite society that wouldn't stand.

There are those who understand this and do their best to bridge that gap. There are those who simply aren't mature enough to use the internet like basic adults.

(edited to correct autocorrect)
bonviveur · F
@Graylight Thanks so much. Out of the politics forum for a breather? You have a good heart... you are a good soul, this I know.
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Graylight · 51-55, F
@ImDone It's a brave, blundering new world, the internet. What I don't want to believe, but which I suspect is true, is that the added communication difficulties only make the divides between people that much worse.
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Graylight · 51-55, F
@bonviveur Thanks for the compliment. It depends on which side of the fence you are as to how you see me, I'm sure. Actually, I kind of hope I have an [i]anti[/i]-fan club out there somewhere. 😈

This post applies to politics, relationships, health posts...anything, really. It speaks to acting with character and being decent to others. It's a lesson we all learn in, like, the 1sr grade but seem to need to be reminded of on a daily basis. I consider this my reminder.
🙂
bonviveur · F
@Graylight Well, this post is certainly not intended for you. It’s more for the people who know they act badly, but aren’t engaging here and should be. I really appreciate you jumping in here.
Graylight · 51-55, F
@bonviveur, Oh, you'd be surprised. We all have our boisterous black angels. But thanks. 😉
hlpflwthat · M
@Graylight @bonviveur I'd love for both your boisterous black angels to join me for dinner some time. I'll buy. :)

(that's a happy smiley emoji - no sarcasm)
bonviveur · F
@hlpflwthat @ImDone @Graylight Thank you all. I needed this today. I have a passion for music and I was just posting and basically doing what a lot of folks do with sharing music. I don’t get a lot of comments or views, but someone decided to slam me. I just don’t get it.
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Graylight · 51-55, F
@bonviveur Better yet, why don't you send him a link of this post? Maybe he'll reply. He'll get the message at least.
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bonviveur · F
@ImDone @Graylight Great ideas. This most recent one was a woman. Maybe I’ll share the link with her.
hlpflwthat · M
@Graylight Not that we have such an unblemished track record, but what makes you so sure her drive-by snarkshooter was a 'he?' Wanna bet a nickel? :)
Graylight · 51-55, F
@hlpflwthat Hmm... 🤔
Graylight · 51-55, F
@bonviveur I've noticed that on this site, snarkiness knows no gender.