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Would you tell your best friend something painful?

One of my best friends is going back to university soon and I'm wondering if I should give her some painful lifestyle advice. Since the new Barbie movie she has a habit of dressing in a single colour (usually pink or some soft colour).

Obviously this is a big fashion mistake but I don't know if I can tell her. For one thing, she seems improved compared to when she came home from university last year (back then, because of the way she dressed and acted, I thought she had converted to feminism/Atheism because she was acting sullen and dressed gothic/garish). Also, she is really fat. She used to be lithe like me but she likes cake too much and now she is a big girl.

Maybe the reason she dresses in block colours is an attempt to distract people from her weight. So would I be mean too bring it up?
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Being away from home can be stressful and difficult to cope with.
(In truth so can being at home !) And some people find comfort in eating. Even though they are aware of how they look as a result if they comfort eat too long.
I'm sure your friend is well aware of how she looks and doesn't need any reminding of it.
University is also a place where you can experiment with colours and styles to express yourself.
Just because it looks strange to you and maybe not as flattering as as perhaps she could be, maybe she's just going with the flow.
novaguy2u · 70-79, M
@Picklebobble2 I wanted to comment but was unsure of what to say. I think you about nailed it.
PinkMoon · 26-30, F
Bring it up an keep us updated.
She can wear pink if she wants. Theres nothing wrong with it whatsoever.. that's just your opinion .. you're unsupportive of her .. with friends like you who needs haters?
IndigoSavage · 22-25, F
@SStarfish I don't hate her, that's why I think she should know!
@IndigoSavage i don't have a problem with pink or any color
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@IndigoSavage telling her something like that is ridiculously wrong. Are you the clothing police?
This is lifestyle advice???? Seriously???? Clothing choices are personal. Your opinion doesn’t matter. She can wear a purple tutu with flashing green rain boots if she wants. Being some kind of preconceived fashion statement is probably not the reason she is attending university.
looping · 18-21
it aint that deep. just tell her she aint got drip
The basic assumption here is that you are right and she is wrong.

You may be right for you but wrong for her.

It would be both arrogant and cruel to give her the message above.

If she likes your style and wants help, she'll ask. Until then, keep your opinions to yourself.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
I teach at a college. I see the huge variety in what students wear. Is there really such a thing as a fashion mistake these days? She's wearing what she likes. I would not say anything, as your comments might strike her as petty and mean spirited.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
You’re worried about the colour of clothing she wears??? That’s her personal choice
Strongtea · 22-25, M
This is super difficult as I do think people should know if they’re making fashion mistakes but it could upset her.
Maybe go shopping and point some things out for her? If it makes her look better then it’s for her benefit in the end, just be tactful. 😊
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
Willomk1 · 46-50, M
Leave it alone, she's reflecting how she feels at this moment in time, it's called a phase. I have seen good friendships go sour over such harsh criticisms, doing so is not worth it.

 
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