For people who dropped out of college
What was your epilogue? Why did you enroll ? Why did you drop out? What did you study and what do you do for a living now?
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Starcrossed · 41-45, F
The first time, I had two friends die sophomore year. One passed at the beginning, in the first week and I dropped several classes but it was OK because we got 1 semester free withdrawals. When the other died in the spring, I dropped all classes. Unfortunately those counted against me. Junior year I had several illnesses and missed but by winter break missed too much to catch up. At the same time my mom was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer so I just left school entirely.
The second attempt, my fiancée didn't support me taking out loans. I found a program that work would provide tuition reimbursement but then they backed out due to the school's accreditation. Fiancée wouldn't support me taking a loan to stay even though I was so happy.
I got a bottom rung IT role and worked my way up the corporate ladder slowly into a role that should have and eventually did require a degree. I was grandfathered in having no degree due to years in my role equating to a degree. I'm not paid as much as my degreed peers.
The second attempt, my fiancée didn't support me taking out loans. I found a program that work would provide tuition reimbursement but then they backed out due to the school's accreditation. Fiancée wouldn't support me taking a loan to stay even though I was so happy.
I got a bottom rung IT role and worked my way up the corporate ladder slowly into a role that should have and eventually did require a degree. I was grandfathered in having no degree due to years in my role equating to a degree. I'm not paid as much as my degreed peers.
robertsnj · 56-60, M
@Starcrossed wow that is heavy. May I ask what you were studying originally and on the 2nd attempt? Why do you think (or know) why your fiancee would not support you? did you two break up or married or still fiancee?
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
@robertsnj I was a double major Psychology and Anthropology minoring in Studio Art
2nd attempt was an art school but I had to declare a degree that would help me get to a role within my company. The closest 'art' thing I could justify was Graphic Design.
Fiancee viewed our finances as shared [we already had a mortgage and car payment together]. He didn't want to take on more debt and didn't think the cost of the school would ever be worth what I would make as a designer.
Our wedding was already close to 'go' day by a few months when I dropped out. Still married.
2nd attempt was an art school but I had to declare a degree that would help me get to a role within my company. The closest 'art' thing I could justify was Graphic Design.
Fiancee viewed our finances as shared [we already had a mortgage and car payment together]. He didn't want to take on more debt and didn't think the cost of the school would ever be worth what I would make as a designer.
Our wedding was already close to 'go' day by a few months when I dropped out. Still married.
Strawbsy · 26-30, F
@Starcrossed Do you have resentment ?
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
@Strawbsy I used to, not really anymore