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Moral Dilemma

My sister and I are both graduating from college this year. I am graduating from a university, and she is graduating from a community college. I think this is a big achievement for both of us, and I am very proud of her. But I think she doesn't like when I talk about graduating. Not, that she has a problem with it. But she is graduating first. She will be graduating in a few weeks actually. Less than two weeks from now. I will be graduating in December of this year. I have one more semester of school. We have a family group chat where we talk and share our accomplishments. I just found out that I am graduating with honors/distinction. Cum Laude to be exact. I want to share it with our family in the group chat, but I don't want to seem like I am outshining or stealing her moment. But I have told my family that I want to graduate with distinction. It has been a goal of mine, and I am happy to have achieved it. I want to tell them that I finally know for a fact that I am going to do it. It is based on your cumulative GPA before the semester you graduate. I am so excited I feel like crying. I failed two classes when I dropped out in 2017 because I did not officially withdraw. I was discouraged from going back until 2019 came around and I changed my mind. I pushed through and was able to bring my GPA up to almost 3.4, and I now I am graduating cum laude. I am so excited because I have gone through so much shit. I just want to share it without seeming like I am stealing her moment.
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hartfire · 61-69
Congratulations! :)
I don't think it's really such a dilemma.
It seems to me that the easiest way to handle it is to keep quiet about your own accomplishments until the actual moment when you graduate.

Give your sister lots of praise in your family group chat; mention all she has achieved and how these skills will help improve her future life.
Maybe write her a special card and give her a special gift.
Maybe prepare a celebratory meal for her, or help her create a celebration party for her and her friends.

Also in the meantime, prepare your plans for how you would like to celebrate.

What were your subjects?
What fields of work are you most interested in?
What would you like your future direction to be?