One lady offers to pay for her step daughters college

All depends.

So I set up a trust fund that paid out when my children reached 21. I paid in each month and occasionally a lump sum of my annual bonus was good. Now as 21 approached I said you'll get this bunch of money. That is it I have saved this up for you, buy a house, pay off debts, take a year traveling, buy a car, get married, whatever but THAT IS IT. You are an adult now this is my starter for you in that journey but don't come back later for more.

My son did a PhD. My daughter bought a house. Their choice but when they both got married this year they funded their weddings they understood that.

So depends on what's been the agreement etc growing up. We as parents agreed the position and stuck with it. It's all about boundaries

If it harms the child, yes. I think they need to put those differences aside, of course there are other opinions.

{@changeyourdestiny] 🤔 maybe the husband is a proud man and does not like the idea of hand outs . he may feel if his daughter is going to college it is up to him to fund this

Wrong and right I'd think pay half and room and bored unless she has to pay for at least some it won't be as important to her as it could b

The stepdaughter won’t appreciate it as much if it’s just handed to her. She needs to have some skin in the game.

It lacks enough information to make an opinion.

So the biological father is refusing?