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I Hate Guys Who Hit Women

An abuser isn't abusive 24/7. They usually demonstrate positive character traits most of the time. That's what makes the abuse so confusing when it happens, and what makes leaving so much more difficult. I know women, personally, who are physically and emotionally abused by their husbands, yet they stay and sometimes believe they are in love. I believe this is one of the reasons why this issue is still going. Abusive men will never stop abusing until women start to know their worth.

The biggest challenge is to convince a woman that it's not her fault. If your husband is abusive, you cannot ignore it. There's no excuse for a man hitting a woman. Ever. Self respect by definition is a confidence and pride in feeling that you are behaving in an honorable and dignified manner. Respect yourself and walk away.

Violence against women is the last refuge of disgusting immoral men. He who has once hit a woman, had forever killed a man in himself. Every time you mistreat a woman, you give up the right to be treated like a man.
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4meAndyou · F
I lived in such a marriage. In the early days of my marriage I was so in love, that to this day I still have trouble separating those feelings from the abuse, the rage, the pain, that followed. It is beyond the capability of most minds to truly understand the deception employed by a Jekyll and Hyde personality.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@4meAndyou Sorry that happened.
4meAndyou · F
@uncalled4 Kids...(and I was still a kid) can't understand complicated issues that involve illness and psychology.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@4meAndyou Agreed, I mean, I was a grown man following a divorce and I still fell for it. She was even my fiancee at one point. The more the Jekyll and Hyde, the more you feel like a shit for leaving someone who is "improving" themselves. But the absolute control issues make it impossible and fighting inevitable. There was no concept of the futility of CONSTANT conflict. Sigh. I should have seen it and acted on it.
4meAndyou · F
@uncalled4 We can't be responsible for falling into a Jekyll and Hyde spider web. They seem so normal, and none of their family and friends are ever allowed to see the dark side, so they don't ever believe you if you complain.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@4meAndyou It's true. She could switch it on and off, made the whole thing even more messed up