The "what if" brigade is actually super annoying.

"What if a white person said that it'd be different"
"What if a man did that, it'd be different"

Stop with the what if's and just say and/or do what you want to. If the aim is to look for loopholes to be a shitty person, just be a shitty person, don't ask hypothetical questions to make yourself feel better. That way we both know where we stand.