What do you think?
My daughter and husband do a “date night” once a month to show her how she should be treated. Covid is making ideas limited for this month.
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BlueVeins · 22-25
From the way you've described it, the core concept sounds nice but the actual stuff being taught is fairly questionable. Like, it's pretty reasonable to expect your date to dress nicely, but if you select for guys who believe in traditional gender roles that favor women, you risk getting shackled to gender roles that... you know, don't favor women. It's important to learn the difference between being spoken to like a person and being spoken to like a thing to be attained, but the amount of money you'd be saving by getting a guy who pays for the meals isn't significant compared to the value of being respected as a self-reliant human being and stuff.
BlueVeins · 22-25
@Soramarie LOL, that's not at all compatible with what you said earlier.
[quote]They should dress well, pull out the chair for her, open the car door, pay for the food, smile and laugh with you.[/quote]
Like, if a couple is into the whole chivalry dynamic, there's nothing wrong with that, but teaching that as a norm is not compatible with being "treated as an equal". Unless you mean that they should both pull each other's chairs and open each other's car doors, and pay for each other's food, which seems unlikely given the context.
[quote]They should dress well, pull out the chair for her, open the car door, pay for the food, smile and laugh with you.[/quote]
Like, if a couple is into the whole chivalry dynamic, there's nothing wrong with that, but teaching that as a norm is not compatible with being "treated as an equal". Unless you mean that they should both pull each other's chairs and open each other's car doors, and pay for each other's food, which seems unlikely given the context.
BlueVeins · 22-25
@Soramarie See, the cooking-swap thing is actually very progressive and it's nice to hear that y'all have fun together dressing up and stuff. Fuck, it'd be legit to do gender roles in your marriage if it fits and both of you like it. But if you're gonna teach your daughter sexist views about dating, you might as well just own up to it.
Soramarie · 26-30, F
SurprisePartyRegicide she sees us. We switch on and off. I stay at home because I’m disabled. He works. But I also compete on horses so when I’m out he takes the lead on household tasks and when he’s working I do. I still believe in people treating each other right call me crazy
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