What do i do?
My grandfather was diagnosed with a bad cancer , it is already kinda spread .my mother is crying and feeling hopeless , what do i do to make her just a little better ? Im feeling so weak right now .
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Diotrephes · 70-79, M
@Gretel The thing about death is that the amount of grief a person feels depends on who dies. I think the #1 is when a long-time spouse dies, followed by one's children, then one's parents, and one's siblings. It tends to fall off after that. When you hear about a stranger's death you don't even think about it. Sure, you will be sad when your grandfather dies but you won't flip out over it. Your mother's death will affect you far more.
As a practical suggestion, you may want to urge your mother to collect all of her father's bills, debts, and insurances so that she will get an idea of what she will be faced with. It is also a good idea to write the basic obituary and to review funeral plans. Those things are very hard to deal with when someone dies so it is better to resolve them beforehand. Of course, a lot depends on the current living arrangements, such as are you all in the same house or do you live in different cities or States? And be sure to get about two dozen death certificates because you need one for closing out each of his accounts and bills.
As a practical suggestion, you may want to urge your mother to collect all of her father's bills, debts, and insurances so that she will get an idea of what she will be faced with. It is also a good idea to write the basic obituary and to review funeral plans. Those things are very hard to deal with when someone dies so it is better to resolve them beforehand. Of course, a lot depends on the current living arrangements, such as are you all in the same house or do you live in different cities or States? And be sure to get about two dozen death certificates because you need one for closing out each of his accounts and bills.
sree251 · 41-45, M
@Diotrephes You said: "And be sure to get about two dozen death certificates because you need one for closing out each of his accounts and bills."
Why bother? When a grandpa dies, his debts and bills die with him.
Why bother? When a grandpa dies, his debts and bills die with him.
Diotrephes · 70-79, M
@sree251 [quote]You said: "And be sure to get about two dozen death certificates because you need one for closing out each of his accounts and bills."
Why bother? When a grandpa dies, his debts and bills die with him.[/quote]
It may be a good idea to verify that for one's particular jurisdiction.
Why bother? When a grandpa dies, his debts and bills die with him.[/quote]
It may be a good idea to verify that for one's particular jurisdiction.
Diotrephes · 70-79, M
@sree251 [quote]@Diotrephes You said: "It may be a good idea to verify that for one's particular jurisdiction."
Verify what? Grandpa will be clear of all liabilities once he get's across the Rio Grande in the sky. Uncle Sam has no jurisdiction.
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Maybe others will be willing to share their experiences with this issue.
Verify what? Grandpa will be clear of all liabilities once he get's across the Rio Grande in the sky. Uncle Sam has no jurisdiction.
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Maybe others will be willing to share their experiences with this issue.
sree251 · 41-45, M
@Diotrephes You said: "Maybe others will be willing to share their experiences with this issue."
When grandpa dies, just walk away. You are clear. I guarantee it. Uncle Sam will have to eat his debts and pay for his burial. Things are different in China: family responsibility applies there. Even if grandpa had committed a crime and executed by firing squad, the family has to pay the bill for the bullets.
When grandpa dies, just walk away. You are clear. I guarantee it. Uncle Sam will have to eat his debts and pay for his burial. Things are different in China: family responsibility applies there. Even if grandpa had committed a crime and executed by firing squad, the family has to pay the bill for the bullets.