Brutally honest question: Stage four cancer is terminal right?

Most stage 4 cancer is deadly and can’t be cured. Some girl posted on her that her mother has stage four cancer and she believes her mom can fight this. I’m glad she had that positive mindset BUT she won’t accept that her mother is dying and can’t accept that it isn’t curable. I’m no sorry for what happened but I feel bad for her but she should have her mother suffering. She can’t get upset at this stuff because shit happens for a reason and she had to accept death is part of life. How can I get her to accept that stage four is terminal? She never mentioned about that. I’ve never heard of someone surviving stage four cancer. Sorry to sound harsh but it’s incurable.

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bowman81 · M

Stage 4 indicates a large tumor that has spread to at least nearby tissue. Depending on the type and degree of spreading it may be survivable for an extended period of time. I have lived with family members who were forced to battle cancer. My mother was successful. The doctors took out a softball size tumor from her abdomen and told us to get ready, they gave her 6 weeks tops to live. She fought through chemo and radiation and went back to teaching school and lived another 30 yrs. and died of a stroke at the age of 89. My wife beat breast cancer but 18 yrs. later lost her life to another unrelated cancer. You never enter that battle planning to lose. You have to fight it right up to the last dying breath. At least when it is over you know you gave it your very best.

Don't be too hard on your friend. There will be plenty of time afterwards to help her pick up the pieces.