I Know Someone With a Brain Tumor

A friend of mine had surgery about three years ago to remove what was classified as a benign tumor in his brain.

Unfortunately, the tumor has recurred and he is having surgery tomorrow. The MRI images are highly suspect for malignancy, but we won't know until tissue samples are pulled.

He lives over 1,000 miles away from me, so I can't be with him, which kills me. I've known this man 30 years and he's one of my dearest friends. My heart just hurts right now.

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IM5688 · 61-69, M

I can understand and I can sympathize with your hurt. I faced a similar situation several years ago, and it truly broke my heart. My ex-wife and I had been divorced about 2 years. I lived in NY and she was living in Hawaii. We stayed closely in touch and were always discussing a reconciliation as despite our divorce, we really were true soul mates. We finally reached agreements to reconcile and remarry, but we could not do it until she returned from Hawaii in about 4 months.
She became ill in Hawaii. She thought it was the flu but after several days, she was having trouble breathing and felt it was more than the flu. She went to the hospital and like always, they ran a battery of tests. Turns out she had leukemia. They started her on chemo treatment right away. I spoke to her a few times by phone, but she became weaker and weaker. I could not fly out to be by her side which gnawed at me to no end. About 2 weeks later, she died.
Hopefully, what your friend is going through will not end up this way, but I do suggest to you, if you can be there, then get there as you never know what will happen.

BellaLocura · 51-55, F

I'm sorry for what you experienced. We never know what life will bring, good or bad. If my friend's situation took a turn for the worse, I would be there as soon as I could.
I was able to visit him about two months after his first surgery. It was a great visit and Im hopeful we will have the opportunity to make more memories during this lifetime.
Thanks so much for commenting and sharing your story.

IM5688 · 61-69, M

Yes, we never know the who, what, when, where, life will throw things at us, but we persevere. I think it is true what is said, tough times make you stronger, so we must keep going. I hope your friend pulls through and that you can share and make more memories. Good Luck to each of you.

NocturnalTide · 46-50, M

A shame. I wish him a successful surgery and recovery. You know that the greatest gift we can offer a friend or loved one is our presence--quality time and the investment in his/her life. If you were closer, I am certain you would be by his side. Hang in there and send all the good vibes you can.

Coppercoil · M

Well he's lucky to have your support right now. It matters more than you probably know, even though you feel so helpless and distant.

JustNik · 51-55, F

🤗 so sorry Bella - hope he comes through ok!

SW-User

sorry to hear that.

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