I can't understand my mother

Often times she thinks I have bad intentions. It's really frustrating and draining but I don't speak because she is very sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings.

This dinner, I asked her what's for dinner. She told me that she's going to cook fish (the fish is still frozen). Since I don't eat after 7pm and it's already 6:30pm, I said that I'll eat the corned beef. The she told me "are you pressuring me? You are just like your father! You want me to feel uneasy and do what you want." I was like, what? I explained why I can't wait the fish, and also, I don't want to rush her cooking. While I was explaining, she's just not listening.

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in10RjFox · M

Did you ask if she can cook the fish before 7 pm .. and did you offer to help ? Is it like you called on the way home? Does she know you finish dinner before 7 pm .. ? You could have said "I can eat corned beef instead of you plan to cook late"..

How a sentence is phrased says a lot! .. and negotiation skills are important to get anything done and not just business.

Don't take spite when she comments like that.. she is just your mother.. instead laugh and ask "Does dad do that too ?" .. and ask more episodes of how dad does it .. and diffuse the situation..

And roof is not going to fall if one day you have dinner at 7.15 or 7.30 pm ..

sugarpie · 26-30, F

@in10RjFox she always take what I've said negatively. I don't really know what to say. I feel like I want to die whenever she makes me feel this way

sugarpie · 26-30, F

@in10RjFox yes i said, i EXPLAINED calmly but she just lose interest once I'm carefully explaining that I'm not thinking what she's accusing to me

And I don't hate her or what. In fact I do whatever she wants and still make me feel like a garbage. I just hate the way she makes me feel time to time and I can't be even against her because I don't want to hurt her

in10RjFox · M

@sugarpie don't go into defence mode and say that she is accusing wrongly.. instead just take it your stride, and just ask what to do now ..

Raaii · 22-25, F

It's soo overwhelming attimes but one thing is you care for her
Somewhere she cares for you too
rest it's okay if being elder still sometimes she has shortcomings
You understand and solve or just ignore it all

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