Can sleeping with another woman be labeled “just sex”?

I’m trying to understand. I have a relationship with a man. He met another who danced with him and told him she has been fantasizing about having sex with him. So he agreed and then told me it’s just sex! I’m not accepting that. I asked him to choose.

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ViciDraco · 41-45, M

It can be just sex. But that doesn't mean you have to accept that behavior in your relationship. There's any number of "it's just" scenarios that can both be true and be dealbreakers. "I'm moving, but it's just 500 miles". Some people will accept that. Some people won't. In this case, it sounds like you won't and you should take whatever actions are required for your own sanity and happiness.

Lions · 61-69, F

@ViciDraco that’s a good perspective. Sometimes life is about compromise

ViciDraco · 41-45, M

@Lions Sometimes it is. But you get to choose when and where in this case