Do you ever look back at your Ex’s

I do, but at the same time without those relationships my kids would not exist in the form they do now (3 x adult from ex 1, 1 x 9 y/o from ex 2), if at all. It's impossible to look back in time and think I could have done things better. I've been introverted and neuro-spicy my whole life, never had an interest in marriage, and always been my own voice. I've never been married and never want to be. My courting/dating skills have always been pretty messed up.

Lawd, yes!

I like gothy girls

my ex was a buff security guard who could lift 300 lbs

Had a fellow i was with 2.5 years. We got engaged then weeks later hed changed his mind!! Lead me a merry dance

Yes. I’ve dodged more bullets than Keanu Reeves.

All the time

Yes ....but I tend to think I was a different person who just had shitty taste in men lol ...live and learn

I was thinking of asking something similar the other day, but involving both exes and people we used to crush over. Sometimes I wonder what TF I was going through at the time on some of those..

Yup, i think its normal. You're out of the honeymoon phase and you can see them for what they were.

I try not to but yep, it fits.
What was I thinking and who was I?

No I respect all my exes, they are good people. We just didn’t align at the time. Mate, if you dated a scary goth girl while feeling slightly out of place and slightly in danger, you knew exactly what you were thinking.

Yes. It led me to the realization that I think we see what we want to see.
The reality is not always what we perceive.

Oh I know what I was thinking. But that’s how your mind works when you’re 19. 😆

No. I do look back -- one of the few things I do at my age -- but generally not with regret at being with an ex. More often fond memories.