I really wanna try a dating site again, but I'm scared

I wanna be open and honest with potentional partners, but being a closeted transman makes it risky.

I could avoid posting pics of me to avoid being recognised, but then I'd worry about them losing interrest or being put off of my looks.

I know I'm not a handsome man, or even look like a man (yet)
The few who actually liked the way I look are the people who got to know me as a person in spite of my appearance.

I think (and hope) I'm a good person, and keep trying to get better every chance I get, but I rarely get a chance to show people that because my looks are sub par.

Also, realistically, you can't really spend a whole lot of time getting to know everyone on a dating site on a personal level without feeling overwhelmed. So I guess looks and keywords are the most important ways to grab attention.


Idk. I'm kinda ranting now. Sorry.

But dating as a closeted transman seems impossible atm.